Happiness is a Waste of Time.

You deserve much more.

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We go through life getting gut punched.

Swept away by outcomes we can’t control.

Desperate to find a way to fix it so we can stop feeling so scared.

We waste our life focused on the wrong path. Honing our skills so we can be happy. Figuring out how to manipulate this physical world so we can be satisfied with the way things are going.

We’ve bought into the lie that “happy” is as good as it gets. So we need to get good at making happy happen.

There’s a richer way to experience life. It’s the way we’re supposed to be experiencing this life.

It’s the life of Bliss. Deep unshakable Peace and Joy.

And we don’t really believe it exists.

We stay in the haunting world our Ego has constructed. Built on lies that keep us feeling small and powerless and hopeless. It’s toxic. It’s familiar. It’s comfortable.

We know the rules and boundaries of this little box. It’s easy to buy the story that we’re safe here. Safe in the predictability.

The unknown feels unsafe. What if? What if there is no realm outside of what we know? We know this world that we have learned to master enough parts of so we feel ok about some of the things some of the time.

That’s a sh!tty mantra. A sad tale to pass on to our kids. It is not a self help book I would buy. “How to learn to master life and feel ok about some things sometimes.”

I don’t think that would make NY Bestseller list.

Honey, it’s time to wake up.

We have to wake up everyday and remember that we are here to remember.

We need to have structures in place so we wake up every day and remember we are here to remember.

We’re all different in what can help us wake up. And there are so many resources and inspiration out there to connect with to help us keep waking up instead of being slapped back down into the dungeon with fear.

Tools to help us stay awake are not a magic pill. We can’t put all our hope into the tool itself. Mastering the tool isn’t the goal. Waking up fully is the goal.

Meditation. Mindfulness. Emotional health. Breath work. Movement work like yoga and Thi Chi. These are all great tools that can help us wake up the sleeping dragon. The dragon in us that has the fire to transform darkness into light.

We should blanket the walls of our homes with “Wake up!” wall paper. Henna it on our hands. Chime it every 15 minutes from our phones.

Instead of “Hi” or “Good day” our greetings to each other should be “Wake up!”

All day. Every day. Every event. Every disappointment. Needs to be food for waking up to our true essence.

A constant clatter of Joy

If you’re not feeling Joy, all the time, you are not fully awake and living from your true essence.

And it can be done. There are plenty of humans who have transcended the world of separateness.

Study them. Read their works. Make it front and center to connect with what it is that they discovered. That they woke up to. That they uncovered and tapped into.

It’s not an easy journey. It’s tempting to give up when we are overtaken with emotions and stories that are grabbing for our attention.

It’s tempting to lose hope and motivation. Some days will feel like you have made no progess at all toward knowing your true essence. Toward waking up and staying awake.

These are just tests to make us stronger. To build our stamina. So we can stand solid in the gusts that have blown us over in the past.

I know without a crumb of doubt that there is a light consciousness that is all around us. Saturating us.

I know I haven’t fully torn down my resistance yet. The walls that keep us in separation. But my belief in this power keeps me going.

It’s step 1 in staying awake. Unshakable Faith that there is a world available to us that is the promised land. Heaven on Earth. Unlimited possibility.

Step 2 is believing we can get there. It is Faith in yourself to overcome the Ego.

La La Land

I’m going to spit the next time a person tells me happiness is a choice.

Of course it’s a choice. If you’re in your right mind.

Most of us aren’t in our right mind most of the time. We’re in the mind of the Ego. The mind on constant defense to dodge the daggers. The mind on continuous alert to avoid ripping the bandaid off old wounds.

“Happiness is a choice” doesn’t mean we can choose to make our world just so. And when we get it all set up the way we have it pictured in our little noggins then we will be happy.

That’s not lasting happiness. That’s not happiness that can stick for long.

For anything to be a real choice we have to be aware of who is choosing. Is it our Ego choosing? Or is it our true self choosing?

It’s a slippery slope to question the Ego. It’s confusing. Unclear. Because we have identified as our Ego for so long it feels like who we are.

Don’t let it get you down

I've been going non-stop head in my work, real estate endeavors, and local theater with the family this season.

I was smacked up side the head by an article I read recently. The writer basically said, check in and make sure you're not bullsh!tting yourself about how serious you are about feeding, creating, launching, building, making piles of money. It really lit a fire under my butt.

I'm a hard worker. I like working hard.

My current life stressors look the same as they always have. In fact, they are at an all time high since we have done some serious financial leveraging recently.

But my stress is almost non-existent. And it's not because my head is in the sand or I am in denial.

It's because I’ve reached a level of mindfulness that I’ve never had before. I’ve been practicing between the emotional storms to clear my mind and not hamster wheel into the great black hole of fear it and fix it.

I am determined to keep unfolding this big juicy life I am here to live and share. And I’m finally relaxed about it.

I’ve leveled up in not believing everything I think. And it feels like freedom.