If left to his own - my dad would have Fox News and all their friends on his t.v. and radio 24/7. Thankfully, Mom doesn't allow that so he keeps the radio on his earbuds all day instead. And we have agreed as a family to never talk politics. There is the rare time when my dad will make some snide comment about something (aka "let's arm the teachers!") and my mom will give him a full on silent treatment until I sit him down and explain to him why she isn't talking to him. He changes course, slightly, and remembers to keep his lips shut and listen in his earbuds.
I love my Dad. He is one of my most favorite people on the planet. He's highly intelligent about so many things. I do not understand his tendency to follow for the sake of following when it comes to politics. We can agree to disagree about some things, and agree to keep our conversations about things that keep us loving.
That's so good! I love both my parents dearly too. I can feel their love. I felt loved growing up. But dang. I can't hang around them long. I certainly couldn't be going to Norway with them. lol!
Ahhhh. I love this. So many threads here that have been noodling around in my own head recently.
I feel so deeply grateful of the journey the awareness path takes me on - the things you mention - the questioning e v e r y t h i n g. The desire to find the neutrality in all things.
And most of all to sit with the feelings, instead of numbing out. Gosh, dang, frequently no easy feat for me. But ooooh baby, what gold and alchemising there is there.
As the song says….happy to be alive at the same time as you.✨🪄🤓
This really resonated with me in a way I can hardly describe. Feeling the same feelings.
I question everything too. So much that I was gifted a huge book that explained everything that kids wanted to know. Spoiler alert: it did not answer what my questions were.
My dreams have really been intense since we started third eye chakra in Creator Retreat and I also happened to simultaneously start a new sleeping supplement. A potent combo for dream work 😂
Yes to all your share Sam! The book I bought my now 28 yr old son way back in the day was, "The Way Things Work. A Visual Guide to the World of Machines." What was I thinking!? lol! Those are not the answers I was looking for or wanting to instill. 🤷♀️
Wish I could have edited but I meant to say that at 5 years old I was gifted that book. It was like a giant FAQ for kids. With the most random of questions. Even then I wanted to know the deeper meaning of life, and that's not conveniently located to the answer to why the sky is blue.
Thanks for this, Connie! I am grateful that I don't have parents with the TV on Fox News at all times. I do have an 84-year-old mom who, after the death of my step-dad, is FINALLY coming into her own. So, that is beautiful to watch and participate in. It's also a reminder that change can happen at anytime, as long as someone is willing to step into that curiosity you mentioned.
Great writing, Connie. Very expressive and heartfelt and engaging.
Oddly, I have read two Substack essays this morning and they both mentioned the mother wound. I’d never heard the phrase until now, but it piqued my interest because my mother wound popped up in the essay. I’m currently writing. I had the essay ready to publish, but then began to have doubts . Someone recently told me that I have poor boundaries, and it knocked my confidence for a loop. Not sure if it’s OK to speak less than flatteringly about my parents, who are still alive (they don’t read my essays).
I know! I struggle writing about my folks. I actually took some stuff out about my Dad. But my Mom wears her addiction like a badge of honor so I figured she doesn't really give a shit. Anyway, they certainly know nothing about my writing. Yet. Stay true Don. I love your realness! I recently read (listened to) Scott Stabile's book "Big Love." I am so inspired by his courage to speak what channels, often the "unspeakable", a little louder.
My dad watches the news constantly too. My childhood with visions of him coming back from office and sitting in front of TV and watching the news eating dinner.
He prides himself in "knowing about the world". But it took me a long time to realise how my parents never questioned things and mostly were all talk and no action.
We are healing generations by questioning everything and being fully ourselves and I'm so grateful for that!
whew! It feels like we're rising from 50 years of dormant since the 60s. It's like the Love movement has been silently incubating and we're roaring our beautiful heads again. Here to stay this time.
So true Mel. And I'm finding the more I'm able to relax back into the spaciousness behind all the ego stuff, the less the ego stuff even matters in the relationship.
If left to his own - my dad would have Fox News and all their friends on his t.v. and radio 24/7. Thankfully, Mom doesn't allow that so he keeps the radio on his earbuds all day instead. And we have agreed as a family to never talk politics. There is the rare time when my dad will make some snide comment about something (aka "let's arm the teachers!") and my mom will give him a full on silent treatment until I sit him down and explain to him why she isn't talking to him. He changes course, slightly, and remembers to keep his lips shut and listen in his earbuds.
I love my Dad. He is one of my most favorite people on the planet. He's highly intelligent about so many things. I do not understand his tendency to follow for the sake of following when it comes to politics. We can agree to disagree about some things, and agree to keep our conversations about things that keep us loving.
That's so good! I love both my parents dearly too. I can feel their love. I felt loved growing up. But dang. I can't hang around them long. I certainly couldn't be going to Norway with them. lol!
Ahhhh. I love this. So many threads here that have been noodling around in my own head recently.
I feel so deeply grateful of the journey the awareness path takes me on - the things you mention - the questioning e v e r y t h i n g. The desire to find the neutrality in all things.
And most of all to sit with the feelings, instead of numbing out. Gosh, dang, frequently no easy feat for me. But ooooh baby, what gold and alchemising there is there.
As the song says….happy to be alive at the same time as you.✨🪄🤓
Back at you Suzy! You have added to my current growth spurt in a way I can't even explain. Thank you dear!
Ahhh Connie…thank YOU!
The world is mirroring you.
Soo much magic. ✨🪄
This really resonated with me in a way I can hardly describe. Feeling the same feelings.
I question everything too. So much that I was gifted a huge book that explained everything that kids wanted to know. Spoiler alert: it did not answer what my questions were.
My dreams have really been intense since we started third eye chakra in Creator Retreat and I also happened to simultaneously start a new sleeping supplement. A potent combo for dream work 😂
Yes to all your share Sam! The book I bought my now 28 yr old son way back in the day was, "The Way Things Work. A Visual Guide to the World of Machines." What was I thinking!? lol! Those are not the answers I was looking for or wanting to instill. 🤷♀️
That is a very interesting reflection. Thank you for sharing that with me. I feel like it gives me a little bit of perspective.
Wish I could have edited but I meant to say that at 5 years old I was gifted that book. It was like a giant FAQ for kids. With the most random of questions. Even then I wanted to know the deeper meaning of life, and that's not conveniently located to the answer to why the sky is blue.
I envisioned you getting that book as a kid. It came through your words loud and clean 💚
Thanks for this, Connie! I am grateful that I don't have parents with the TV on Fox News at all times. I do have an 84-year-old mom who, after the death of my step-dad, is FINALLY coming into her own. So, that is beautiful to watch and participate in. It's also a reminder that change can happen at anytime, as long as someone is willing to step into that curiosity you mentioned.
Great writing, Connie. Very expressive and heartfelt and engaging.
Oddly, I have read two Substack essays this morning and they both mentioned the mother wound. I’d never heard the phrase until now, but it piqued my interest because my mother wound popped up in the essay. I’m currently writing. I had the essay ready to publish, but then began to have doubts . Someone recently told me that I have poor boundaries, and it knocked my confidence for a loop. Not sure if it’s OK to speak less than flatteringly about my parents, who are still alive (they don’t read my essays).
But anyway, very nice to read your work!
I know! I struggle writing about my folks. I actually took some stuff out about my Dad. But my Mom wears her addiction like a badge of honor so I figured she doesn't really give a shit. Anyway, they certainly know nothing about my writing. Yet. Stay true Don. I love your realness! I recently read (listened to) Scott Stabile's book "Big Love." I am so inspired by his courage to speak what channels, often the "unspeakable", a little louder.
My dad watches the news constantly too. My childhood with visions of him coming back from office and sitting in front of TV and watching the news eating dinner.
He prides himself in "knowing about the world". But it took me a long time to realise how my parents never questioned things and mostly were all talk and no action.
We are healing generations by questioning everything and being fully ourselves and I'm so grateful for that!
whew! It feels like we're rising from 50 years of dormant since the 60s. It's like the Love movement has been silently incubating and we're roaring our beautiful heads again. Here to stay this time.
So true Mel. And I'm finding the more I'm able to relax back into the spaciousness behind all the ego stuff, the less the ego stuff even matters in the relationship.